You review the correct greetings for guests according to rank and when to extend your hand to another. All nobles expect their due honors.
As the person of highest rank within the domain, no one may sit at any formal event unless you give them permission, and no one must ever turn their back on you. If they do, you are intended to recognise the insult.
You study rules for formal dining, including the proper utensils for different dishes. As queen, no one will comment on your mistakes, but they will notice them.
You study the traditions of ballroom etiquette, how to politely accept or defer an offer, and how to avoid the impression of attachment to an individual.
You memorise the correct title for every servant in the castle. Treating servants with respect ensures good service.
To directly challenge someone's honor is to declare war. Never make a public accusation of cowardice, treason, infidelity, or murder unless you are prepared to face mortal enemies. And on that note, you study the etiquette of dueling.
As a monarch you are expected to embody the virtues of honesty, bravery, and generosity. You should always offer aid to those in need; however, those you aid personally are expected to give you their utmost loyalty even unto death.
You study the forms of written address; how to issue and decline invitations, how to announce an impending visit, and how to correspond with the rules of foreign domains.
You study the language of flowers, and the secret meanings that can be communicated through the gift of a bouquet.
You study the rules of behavior in foreign courts, so that you may seem at home in any setting.
You learn that it's important to make eye contact when saying nice things about someone.
You learn that flattering comments have the best impact when kept short. Gushing makes people feel awkward.
You learn that it is always better to compliment people for their personality and their choices than their physical attributes.
Visual elements are best to flatter on first meeting; they are expected to be noticed right away. If you've spend more time with someone, suddenly complimenting their attire will ring false.
Small personal details help make the recipient of your flattery feel that you have truly noticed them, which is always better than a simple "how nice you look".
Most people want to believe that they are successful and well-liked more than they want to believe they are handsome. Play to these beliefs and they will be inclined to enjoy your company, even if they should know better.
A certain class of dramatic personality believes utterly that they are ugly and unpopular, even if this is untrue. Flattering their appearance will make them pull away and mistrust you. Instead, compliment their intelligence; this tends to be their weakness.
Most people want to believe that they are special and will react well to hints that they are receiving slightly better treatment than others. However, too-obvious favoritism will stir resentment, and only the vain enjoy it.
The most reliable form of flattery is to convey that you honestly like the target, enjoy spending time with them, and wish them to think well of you.
Imitation is a form of flattery; mirroring someone's gestures and reactions can lead them to subconsciously trust you and feel that you have a bond. Be careful not to make this seem like mimicry, which is insulting.